Alright, Tim. You don’t sound like a mean troll. Let’s look at a few of your assumptions.

Living wage — how many should it support?
I’m not an economist. All I know is many people, including parents, struggle to survive on minimum wage. They can’t properly care for themselves and their families, sacrificing to try to earn enough for basic expenses. One glaring example of how this is a damning trend — quality time that would be spent raising children is spent scrambling from minimum wage job to minimum wage job, and kids get shoved into inadequate day care. A tragic example — this

No child should be homeless.

We totally agree. But, federal policies choose to ignore millions of kids, with parents and without, who are homeless. HUD’s definition of homelessness excludes the majority of families, and unaccompanied youth (who will often end up with children). The dearth of services and housing assistance that perpetuates homelessness for children must be addressed. Which is what we’re trying to do in a bipartisan effort (that gets dwarfed by our nation’s distorted “priorities”).

Should homeless parents be allowed to keep their children?

By law, they are unless the children are endangered. By practice, a lot of kids get separated from parents — sometimes a necessary act, sometimes not. Many assume our foster care system works. Not so much, though gallant efforts are made to help kids whose parents are unable to care for them. Helping parents keep their kids by providing support is much better, unless the parents are absolutely dysfunctional.

Keeping families together is often in the best interest of the children, and less expensive. Separating families is usually traumatic for kids and parents.

Housing resources prioritizes single parents, kids.

Not. Especially HUD’s efforts to end “chronic homelessness.” Those are mostly adults. They deserve all the help they can but it’s being done at the expense of the rest of the homeless population, probably 90% of those homeless don’t fit the chronic definition, thus get little-no help.

It’s important to know HUD’s underfunded and their purpose sabotaged, especially by our current White House occupant.

Across the land, communities have few shelters for families. And scarcer resources. So kids can grow up to be homeless adults.

Having 6 kids is wrong.

That’s a popular opinion. I can’t really argue, though I’m one of 5 kids. What’s the magic number? What happens to those who go over it? What are we doing to help mothers not have too many kids? Does our attitude about how many kids parents should have keep those parents from getting help? It may be too late to stop those who already have large families, but we should make sure parents have authentic choices.

And, to be clear, some people believe that having large families is a good thing. For many reasons.

Some, if you read my FB thread that inspired this post, didn’t choose to have large families. What do we want them to do, throw the excess kids away?

Founder/pres. HEAR US Inc., gives voice & visibility to homeless families & youth, ran shelters, advocate, filmmaker, author, 15 yrs. on US backroads.

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