Diane Nilan
1 min readJun 25, 2023

"Because many with BPD have histories of extensive early trauma, including abuse and neglect, some did emotionally and developmentally fall behind others who did not experience trauma."

I'm constantly dismazed* at how we as a society seem to ignore the impact of abuse and neglect. Then we're surprised that people don't function as we expect. It seems those who abuse and neglect (who also probably experienced abuse and neglect in their lives) get off scot free, and those who struggle to function, BPD and other challenges, get penalized the most, with poverty and homelessness being the ultimate consequence.

Your explanation of how BPD can affect people is quite helpful. It needs to be read by the unenlightened. We could do better by figuring out how to incorporate people's differences into a more-inclusive society. Yeah. But maybe some will read this and become more understanding.

*Dismaze, [dis-meyz]

Verb (used with object)

To dismay and overwhelm

To perplex with negative connotations:

To really annoy the snot out of, typically because of blatant stupidity or gross insensitivity: the very rich man wondered why so many homeless persons lived on the sidewalk outside his business.

Also dismazed, dismazement, dismazing.

Origin: Diane Nilan (HEAR US Inc.), in a perpetual state of dismay and amazement, coined this term on May 21, 2014.

The title of my book, Dismazed and Driven - My Look at Family Homelessness in America. https://amzn.to/3PD4s4B



Diane Nilan

Founder/pres. HEAR US Inc., gives voice & visibility to homeless families & youth, ran shelters, advocate, filmmaker, author, 18 yrs. on US backroads. hearus.us